Book Review: The Great Sex Rescue: The Lies You’ve Been Taught and How to Recover What God Intended

Quick Summary "Wow." That was a word I wrote over and over again in the margins of this book. Once it was because I was blown away at a finding from their research. Other times I was struck by how they uncovered how many of our Christian teachings are inconsistent with regards to men and …

Book Review: Sheet Music by Kevin Leman

Quick Summary Sheet Music has bounced around Christian circles for years, so I was excited to finally see what it was all about. Unfortunately I was a little turned off by what I read. Imagine that your dad wrote a book about sexual intimacy in marriage. Seriously...just try. And while your dad is a psychologist …

Sex in Church

Let's talk about sex in church. Wait, let me try that again. Let's talk about how we talk about sex in church. Recently, I was co-teaching a marriage class at our church and we spent two weeks on sex and sexuality in scripture. Since I don't ever recall a class like this ever happening in …

Listen To This Podcast and Start Having Better Sex in 2022

In today's post, I simply want to share a resource that I believe will help open doors of conversation that will deepen your sexual intimacy with one another. "Life is too short to settle for mediocre sex."Vanessa Marin, vmtherapy.com This post is not: A thorough overview of sexuality and sexual health within a marriage.A theology …

Has Purity Culture Affected Your Marriage? Pt. 2

Today we continue our article on sexual purity from last week, which you can find here. If you haven't read it, check it out before continuing; it will make much more sense that way. If I'm being honest, this article presents a harder challenge than part 1. It's easy to "deconstruct" or point out all …

Has Purity Culture Affected Your Marriage? Pt. 1

The topics I choose to write about on this blog are influenced by my own journey but also inspired by what others have experienced. One topic that comes up over and over again in both individual and couples therapy is the struggle to deconstruct a "purity culture" mindset about marriage, sex, and romance. What Is …

13 Ways You Might Be Sabotaging Your Sex Life

Sex. There, I said it. Sexuality in a relationship is such a broad topic. Its mysteries are never fully understood or found. During one encounter, fireworks go off and transcendence is reached. Another encounter is an enjoyable but predictable experience. Like the best things in life, the harder you try and force it to happen, …

Taking Your Clothes Off Is The Easy Part – A Discussion on Intimacy

If you've seen it once, you've seen it a thousand times. A couple on the big screen bursts through the door, stumbling and fumbling as they take off their coats, shoes, and eventually one another's clothes. They might end up in the kitchen, up against the wall, or find themselves falling into a perfectly made …